The other day I was dealing with some serious fear about some upcoming decisions I’m making. FEAR hit me hard until I decided to face down fear once and for all. Maybe you don’t know how to face your fears. I know, you may be asking, what does that even mean? You may be saying, “that’s easy for you to say” or “you just don’t know my situation.” Well, that may be true and it is only as true as it is true to YOU.
Fear is an interesting phenomenon. It is the same emotion as extreme love except the opposite. It causes action or inaction depending on the situation. You may have heard of the old concept of fight or flight. Our minds are equipped with the internal mechanism of making a decision to fight or a decision to run or take flight. The entire job of our mind is to protect us and keep us in survival mode.
Consider this. Fear is an internal dialogue of your scared mind searching for the past experiences and outcomes. When the mind discovers a negative outcome it immediately attaches that outcome to the current situation causing you to take caution and decide whether you want to stay to deal with it or run to safety.
If you understand this concept then you need to recognize that you are the author of those thoughts. As the author, you can make decisions to rewrite the message. Let’s say you see an opportunity to invest in something that could pay off big. Your initial reaction is elation, but as you think about it more, fear starts to set in. You’ve heard of people making similar investments and losing a lot of money. Maybe you hear your parent’s voices saying “to be careful, after all, it may not be a wise investment. It’s possible you could lose everything.” You search for wisdom and can only come up with the negative emotions. Your decision is to hold off on the investment until something “safer” comes along. Years go by and the same scenario plays out over and over. You never act because your fear stops you in your tracks.
What if it is a relationship you’re after? You see the girl or guy across the room. The attraction is there and you want to meet that person. But wait, your mind starts to race and says, “you remember the last time you talked to someone, they rejected you. What if that happens again?” So rather than allowing a completely new person with completely different feelings get to know you, your decision is to hold off to avoid the potential pain. I lived this one for a long time in my life. Thank goodness for my wife. We recently celebrated 18 years of marriage.
Maybe in your faith, you hear God’s voice calling. He’s telling you to do something that requires massive action with no clear vision of what might happen. It is a moment of an Abrahamic calling. The only thing you have is faith. What do you do? Things are so uncertain. No job, no house, give up the current security. What do you do? Do you follow the voice of God and go or do you follow the voice of FEAR and stay?
Facing your fears simply means you recognize what fear is and where it comes from. It is easier said than done, but once you recognize what it is, you can tackle it every time. Know that every, I mean EVERY, situation is a new experience. This experience will not be the same as the last one. Courage is not the absence of fear but the conquering of fear. Brave men and women are just as fearful as those deemed cowards. The difference is the action they took in spite of their fears.
If you want to Face your Fears, then simply capture them in the moment and make decisions that you control. With each successful encounter, your mind will replace the negative emotion with the new reinforced positive experience which builds into confidence and courage! In my previous blog, Unlock Your Mind, I actually discuss some of the ways to tap into your mind and thought processes. You don’t want to miss it.
God Bless you!